So, You’re Giving a Wedding Speech…Let’s be real; wedding speeches are stressful. It can feel SO exciting to be asked to stand by your best friend on her big day, but then the reality sets in: you’re expected to give a speech. Are you sweating yet? The writing process can be long and frustrating. Then, on the wedding day, you stand in front of a crowd of people (many of whom you may not even know), and you’re expected to deliver something funny, heartwarming, and unique. Sure, for some people, this process is easy, but for the rest (majority) of people, it can feel like the 10th circle of hell.
What Makes for a “Good” Wedding Speech?So what makes a good speech? Here’s my advice: keep it simple and remember basic etiquette. First of all, a wedding speech should be short and concise. We’ve all been at the wedding where someone rambles on for over 10 minutes about odd stories and inside jokes that no one understands. This is not a good time. Instead, try to keep your speech under 4 minutes (2-3 minutes is ideal) and just stick to the key parts to a wedding speech.
The Key Parts to a Wedding Speech
Drop the Inside JokesWhy should you avoid inside jokes? While a little reference to an inside joke can add a special connection for you and your friend, a speech littered with them can leave the audience confused and uninterested.
Thank You For EverythingBegin your speech by introducing yourself and thanking your friend for having you be a part of their celebration. Also, consider thanking the bridal party for their help planning events (if they did so), and it is traditional etiquette to thank the parents. You can also thank the guests for taking the time to be there today.
Remember When…Next, share one memory (or two maximum) about you and the bride/groom. If you’re stuck for a memory, consider qualities you might admire about the bride/groom and think of a time they best showed this quality.
Stuck on which story to share? Check out my blog on how to choose which story to share!
Written in the StarsYou’ll also want to share something about the couple’s relationship (i.e. a sweet story, how they met, how you knew they were in love, their shared interests, etc.)
Join me in Congratulating…Finally, don’t forget to congratulate the couple! Finish your speech by raising your glass to toast the couple, inviting the rest of the guests to do so with you.
Place Nice, Play FairI believe that wedding speeches are not a time to roast the couple! Funny speeches are entirely acceptable and can be a lot of fun, but the jokes should feel natural and should not be used to insult the couple. Jokes in the speech should keep it fun, playful, and positive–not hurtful or demeaning (do I have to explain that, though?).
Questions? Let me know in the comments below!
Until next time,