It’s Wedding Season!
I’m busily working away on speeches for a few new clients, and it has me reflecting on the power of these custom wedding speeches.
As a professional wedding speech writer, it’s a privilege to learn the backstory of so many friendships. I learn about how people met, about their favourite stories, and their favourite songs that they share.
I love taking these beautiful histories and weaving them into meaningful and unique stories for my clients to deliver back to their friends–it’s honestly just so cool!
Every story is unique, and that makes the writing process so exciting. I only wish I could be there when the speech is delivered on the wedding day!
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So, What’s the Formula?
People ask, “what formula do you use to write these custom speeches?” This question always makes me laugh. While there’s a basic outline to use when writing a speech (i.e. people you need to acknowledge, special memories to share, and toasting the happy couple (you’d be surprised how many people forget this)), there is no copy and paste routine to these speeches.
Once a person hires me, I send them a questionnaire to get to know them and their relationship with their friend/family member, and it is incredible how each story is so unique. While this doesn’t necessarily surprise me, it’s exciting to get a small snapshot of so many different relationships.
The foundations of each friendship are different. Some bonds are formed on laughter and humour, while others are built from the ashes of a tragedy, and so the writing process for each couldn’t be more different–it has to be. While one speech would be perfect for a client, that same speech (with memories swapped out) would be inappropriate and hollow for another.
What is Love? (baby don’t hurt me)
We’re all different; we know this, and yet there is something so beautiful about piecing together different puzzles and seeing beyond the differences and finding the similarities.
We value friendship. We value support. We value companionship. Whether you’re introverted or extroverted, you know that warm feeling of being cared for. It’s a beautiful, valuable, and indescribable honour to be loved. While I genuinely believe that this feeling of being loved is indescribable and undefinable, there is something so genuine in the pursuit of capturing (even a small) reminder of the power of love in friendship.
Do You Remember?
Like that nostalgic scent that transports you back to your childhood (I swear I will be hunting mine until the end of time–it’s a vanilla SOMETHING), we can never truly explain how the love from a genuine friendship makes us feel. We also never know when it’s going to affect us either, but when it does, it is an extraordinary moment that makes us stop and reflect.
So no, there is no secret formula to these speeches, and like that elusive scent, these speeches will never truly define your bond, but they can remind you of some of those special memories, and they can remind you that you’re cared for and loved… and that’s pretty good too.
Until next time,
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