It’s Wedding Season!
I’m busily working away on speeches for a few new clients, and it has me reflecting on the power of these custom wedding speeches…
As a professional wedding speechwriter, it is such a privilege to learn the backstory of so many friendships. I learn about how they met, about their favourite stories, and their favourite songs that they share.
I love taking their histories and weaving them into a meaningful and unique story for my client to deliver back to their friend–it’s honestly just so cool!
Every story is unique, and that makes the writing process so exciting. I only wish I could be there when the speech is delivered on the wedding day!
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So, What’s the Formula?
People ask, “what formula do you use to write these custom speeches?” and this question always makes me laugh. While there certainly is a basic outline to use when writing a speech (i.e. people you need to acknowledge, specific special memories to recall, and of course toasting the happy couple–you’d be surprised how many people forget this) there is no copy and paste routine to these speeches–there can’t be.
Once a person hires me, I send them a questionnaire to get to know them and their relationship with their friend/family member and it is incredible how each story is so unique. While this doesn’t necessarily surprise me, it is truly exciting having the opportunity to get a small snapshot of so many different relationships.
The foundations of each friendship are different. Some bonds are formed on laughter and humour, while others are built from the ashes of a tragedy, and so the writing process for each couldn’t be more different–it has to be. While one speech would be perfect for a client, that same speech (with memories swapped out) would be inappropriate and hollow for another.
What is Love? (baby don’t hurt me)
We’re all different; we know this, and yet there is something so beautiful about piecing together different puzzles and seeing beyond the differences and finding the similarities.
We value friendship. We value support. We value companionship. Whether you are introverted or extroverted, you know that feeling of being cared for, and it is a beautiful, valuable, and indescribable honour to be loved. While I genuinely believe that this feeling of being loved is indescribable and undefinable, there is something so genuine in the pursuit of capturing (even a small) reminder of the power of love in friendship.
Do You Remember?
Like that nostalgic scent that transports you back to a particular time (I swear I will be hunting mine until the end of time–it’s a vanilla SOMETHING), we can never truly harness the power of love in friendship. We can never know when it’s going to affect us, but when it does, it is an extraordinary moment that makes us stop and remember that indescribable feeling.
So no, there is no secret formula to these speeches, and like that elusive scent, these speeches will never truly define your bond, but they can remind you of some of those special memories, and they can remind you that you are cared for and loved… and that’s pretty good too.
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