Chances are if you’re reading this blog, you’re in the situation of having to give a Maid of Honor speech without knowing the Bride well; However, you might also be here out of curiosity and be wondering:
How on earth are you the Maid of Honor if you don’t know the Bride?
Here’s the thing, weddings aren’t always logical, and they certainly don’t always follow those perfect guides we see online. Instead, weddings can be messy and complicated.
So, here are a few reasons a Maid of Honor might not know the Bride well:
- The Maid of Honor is the Groom (or partner’s) sister and has been asked to be the Maid of Honor out of relation more than friendship. The Maid of Honor and the Bride might still be getting to know each other in this situation.
- The Maid of Honor and the Bride were childhood best friends who have grown apart. Their connection might be grounded in those childhood memories, but they don’t have many current memories to share.
- The Maid of Honor might say yes (more out of obligation) after an acquaintance has asked them to fill the role. This is more common than you’d think! Not everyone has close friendships, and sometimes this happens after a Bride, and the original Maid of Honor have a falling out, and the Bride needs a last minute replacement.
Like I said, weddings can be complicated.
Regardless of what situation you’re in, in this blog, I’ll give you some tips and tricks on how to write the perfect Maid of Honor Speech even if you don’t know the Bride well.
Tip #1: What’s one of the Bride’s Best Quality?
We can always find something good about the people around us, even if it’s small.
Consider qualities like:
- The Bride is kind
- A good listener
- Motivated at work
- Adventurous (goes on a lot of trips or enjoys camping)
Choose at least one good quality and then think of an example of a time you saw the Bride exemplify this quality. This example does not need to be a grand gesture, even a small memory can make someone feel special!
One of the things that I love (or like or admire) about [Bride’s name] is how [Bride’s name] is such a great listener. She’s always been available for me if I’ve needed someone to text after a hard day, which means a lot to me.
Tip #2: Focus on the Couple
The great thing about a wedding speech is that the majority of the focus should be on the happy couple anyway, so if you don’t have much to say about the Bride, it’s not a big problem.
After you say something nice about the Bride, like the example we did above, shift the focus onto the couple and focus your speech on how happy you are to be celebrating their marriage and wish them well on their new journey.
A speech should make the recipient feel good, so don’t shy away from embellishing a bit to make sure the Bride feels special:
I have so many things I’d love to share about [the Bride], but today is really about [names of the couple] and the great future they have ahead of them.
Tip #3: Find a Great Quote for Inspiration
Sometimes, when you don’t know what to say, it’s great to use someone else’s words (without plagiarizing, obviously).
Finding a great quote for your speech can be an effective way to be inspired about what to write (maybe the quote will spark a creative segue you hadn’t previously considered).
A quote can also be an easy way to acknowledge the Bride’s interests.
I recently wrote a speech for a client who didn’t know much about the Bride except that she LOVES the Backstreet Boys. I was able to use this interest to find a great Backstreet Boys lyric to build my client’s speech around. We ended up with a really special and very personalized speech despite not knowing too much else about the Bride.
The Bride ended up loving the speech because of the Backstreet Boys’ reference, and she felt special that her friend remembered that she loved that band.
Consider quotes from:
- TV-shows the Bride likes
- Music the Bride likes
- Books the Bride likes
- Childhood shows the Bride likes
Don’t know any of the Bride’s interests?
Opt for a classic and meaningful quote. By searching Maid of Honor speech quotes online, you’ll find a wide variety of options to choose from!
Bonus Tip! Don’t Feel Pressure to Write a Super Funny Speech
There can be a lot of pressure when giving a wedding speech and mix this with not knowing the Bride well, the task can feel impossible. Give yourself a break and don’t give in to the false belief that the only good wedding speeches are the hilarious ones.
Instead, focus on writing a kind speech that celebrates the happy couple and congratulates them on their marriage. Remember, this day is about the couple, not you, so you don’t need to deliver the world’s best speech.
Still Overwhelmed About Your Wedding Speech?
As a professional wedding speech writer, I’ve worked with hundreds of clients in just about any situation you can imagine, and we always end up with a great speech they’re proud to read.
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Until Next Time,