3 Step Process to Your Maid of Honour Speech
So, you’re writing a maid of honour speech for your sister’s wedding? In today’s blog, I’ll share some tips and tricks to consider to help you write up a meaningful wedding speech for your sister’s big day.
What is a Maid of Honour Speech?
First, what is a Maid of Honour Speech? A Maid of Honour speech is a special speech read by the Maid of Honour in honour of the bride, addressing the newlyweds and congratulating them on their union.
A Maid of Honour speech is typically between 2-3 minutes (around 250-550 words) and is often read by the Maid of Honour during the wedding reception.
Speech Responsibilities as a Sister?
While you might be feeling some extra pressure as the sister of the bride, however, your speech responsibilities really aren’t different than any other Maid of Honour speech. Your goal should be to deliver a meaningful speech that congratulates the newlyweds, but that might feel easier said than done!
What if I’m Not Close With my Sister?
As a professional wedding speechwriter, I know relationships can be complicated, and many Maid of Honour’s are not especially close with the bride. This doesn’t mean you can’t craft a meaningful speech—I’ll be sure to add some considerations for you if you and your sister aren’t close!
Don’t know the bride well? Check out my blog on “3 Tips to Write a Maid of Honour Speech if You Don’t Know the Bride Well” blog.
How to Write a Maid of Honour Speech for Your Sister’s Wedding
Step 1. Plan
Before you start writing your draft, take a few minutes to decide what you want to share in your speech. I always tell my clients to consider their favourite quality about the bride and then write the speech with examples to best highlight that quality.
For example, if the bride is exceptionally kind, do you have a memory from when she went out of her way to help you? Brainstorm some ideas and write down anything that comes to mind. Once you have some ideas, pick your favourites. If you’re stuck, consider talking to parents, friends or anyone who might have memories of you and your sister who could help you brainstorm.
Not Close with the Bride Tip
This story doesn’t need to include any grand gestures; you can share something seemingly simple. Maybe your sister gave you a ride to a sleepover you really wanted to attend? You can make a small memory like this meaningful for the audience by sharing why it was special for you. Maybe you remember feeling grown up in her car listening to her music? Think of the feelings around memories and see if you can share a small line about why the memory was so special for you.
Also, don’t feel like memories need to be from childhood! Many of my clients became close with their siblings in adulthood, so feel free to share a recent memory—some even share fond memories about the wedding planning process!
Step 2. Drafting
Once you have an idea of what you’d like to share, start drafting! Consider the following template to follow for your speech draft:
- Introduce yourself
- Thank anyone who might need to be thanked
- Share a memory of you and your sister that highlights your favourite quality about your sister
- Congratulate the happy couple
- Share a memory or thought on their relationship (something kind)
- Share a wish for their marriage
Looking for advice on topics to avoid? Check out my “How to Write the Perfect Maid of Honour Speech” blog for more ideas!
While you may know the majority of the guests in attendance, you might not know everyone, so take a moment to introduce yourself, your role in the wedding and your relation to the bride.
Thank Anyone Who Might Need to be Thanked
This isn’t a mandatory piece; however, you might consider thanking the bridal party for their help planning events or a particular person whose contributions made the day special. You can also thank the newlyweds for having you part of their celebration!
Share a Memory of You and Your Sister
Once you’ve identified your sister’s quality you want to highlight (e.g., kind, funny, independent, motivated, hard-working, etc.) and share a memory that showcases that quality. If you don’t have a memory of your sister that includes you, that’s ok! Maybe you’re inspired by the time she went above and beyond for her coworkers? Or her courage travelling by herself?
The goal of this section is to make your sister feel special, so you can think out-of-the-box here, but keep it kind and focused on your sister.
Congratulate the Happy Couple
Remember, you’re all gathered to celebrate the couple, so bring your speech back to the main focus of the day. This might be as simple as “[name] and [name], I am so happy for you two and can think of no better couple.“
Share a Wish for Their Marriage
Share a wish for their marriage like “I wish you a long and happy marriage.” Of course, feel free to be playful here, depending on your personality and relationship with the bride.
Not Close with the Bride Tip
If you can’t think of a wish or even a way to congratulate the couple, consider finding a quote to share instead. This can take the pressure off of you to say the right thing while still saying something meaningful.
“My greatest wish for the two of you is that through the years your love for each other will so deepen and grow that years from now you will look back on this day, your wedding day, as the day you loved each other the least.” – author unknown.
Finally, ask the audience to join you in congratulating the newlyweds! This is where you will raise your glass and cheers to the happy couple!
Step 3. Editing
Once you have a draft, take some time to edit your speech. Feel free to add or remove anything and make sure it flows so it will be easier for you to read. I always suggest taking some time away from your draft and revisiting it with fresh eyes later.
Make the speech easier to read by making the font larger with larger line spacing. This way, it’s easier for you to find your place again if you get flustered during your speech.
Still Feeling Overwhelmed?
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For those looking for something simpler, check out my wedding speech template, available for purchase here.
Until next time,