First of all, it’s actually really common for the maid of honour to not know the groom well (or at all), so if you find yourself in this situation, don’t feel bad; it won’t affect your ability to write a thoughtful and meaningful maid of honour speech for your loved one!
Whether you don’t know the groom because of distance, different social circles or because you hate him, in this blog, I’ll offer three speech options for you if you find yourself in the situation of writing a maid of honour speech without knowing the groom.
The options will cover:
- How to include him in the speech (if you want)
- How to write a speech focused on the person you’re representing
- How to balance mentioning him without focusing on him too much
- Maid of honour speech template example
1. How to include him in the speech (if you want)
If you’d like to include a section about the groom, you’ll only need to learn one or two small things about him. Consider asking the bride (or groom’s partner) for a story they love about the groom (consider asking how they met or for more details about their engagement) and share a few key elements from the story in the speech.
“I asked Lee to share her favourite story about Morgan, and she told me about the time they went camping but got soaked during a surprise storm. They ended up packed into their vehicle, waiting for the storm to pass, but instead of it being a bummer, Lee told me how Morgan held her in his arms and told her hilarious stories from his youth. Standing here today, I can tell you there’s no one I’d rather see with my best friend than a person that holds her and makes her laugh until the hard times pass. Thank you for being such a wonderful partner, Morgan. I know Lee will always be able to count on you through rain or shine…”
2. How to write a speech focused on the person you’re representing
While I’m offering a few ideas to help you include the groom, please remember that it’s completely acceptable to focus on your best friend, so you do not have to include a story or focus on the groom at all if you don’t want to. Instead, consider simply sharing how you’re happy your loved on how found someone they care for and wish them all the best!
“Lee, I love you, and I’m so excited that you’ve found someone who makes you so happy. I wish you and Morgan a wonderful marriage filled with lots of love and great adventures.”
Can’t stand the groom? Check out my blog on How to Write a Maid of Honour Speech if you Don’t Like the Groom
3. How to balance mentioning him without focusing on him too much
You can keep the focus on your loved one while still mentioning the groom. To do this, ask your loved one (or a mutual friend) to share a story about the groom or some of the qualities they admire most about him.
To incorporate a story in your speech without focusing on the groom, try sharing how your loved one lit up while sharing details of the story and focus on how it’s one of the reasons that makes you confident they’re the perfect pair.
“I asked Lee to share her favourite story about Morgan, and while she spoke about him, her face lit up, and she couldn’t stop smiling. I’ve never seen her so head over heels for someone before, and seeing the way she instantly brightens when she talks about Morgan is one of the many reasons I know he’s the perfect match for her…”
Maid of Honour Speech Template
As you start writing your speech, a template can help make the process less daunting. Below I’ll share an easy wedding speech template!
- Introduce yourself
- Share how you know the bride (or groom’s partner)
- A story about you and the bride (or groom’s partner) that highlights one of your favourite qualities about them
- OPTIONAL – a story about the groom or a reason why you feel they are well suited (see examples above for some ideas)
- A wish for the newlywed’s marriage (e.g. long and loving marriage)
- Congratulations with the cheers
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