How to Choose Which Story to Share in Your Wedding Speech

TEXT: "HOW TO CHOOSE WHICH STORY TO SHARE IN YOUR WEDDING SPEECH"

When writing your wedding speech, it’s a nice touch to add a special story or memory to share. However, when it comes to choosing the right story, that can feel overwhelming, especially if you’ve known the person for many years and have shared many memories.

5 Things to Consider When Choosing What Story to Share in Your Wedding Speech

  1. Make sure it’s appropriate
  2. Choose a story that makes the person/people feel good
  3. Keep it positive and joyful to match the tone of the day
  4. Keep it focused on the person you’re representing with the speech
  5. Choose a story that talks about one of your favourite qualities about the person

1. Make Sure it’s Audience Appropriate

A microphone infront of a crowd with text that reads "Obviously, everyone is different, and what’s appropriate for one crowd would be uncomfortable for another, so use your best judgement before sharing a story that might upset people or make them uncomfortable."

While it may be tempting to share a story about the night you and your best friend got so drunk and danced the night away at the bar at your resort, you’ll want to consider the audience before you share stories like this.

Obviously, everyone is different, and what’s appropriate for one crowd would be uncomfortable for another, so use your best judgement before sharing a story that might upset people or make them uncomfortable.

Tips for Things to Avoid

  • Don’t bring up exes
  • Don’t talk about anything illegal
  • Don’t judge any belief systems
  • Don’t use any culturally insensitive language

Remember, our words have power, so we want to choose them thoughtfully.

2. Choose a Story that Makes the Person/People Feel Good

This celebration is meant to shower the happy couple in love and joy, so choose a story that makes them feel special and cared for.

Tips for Things to Avoid

  • Insults
  • Judgements
  • Jokes that “roast” the person/people

3. Keep it Positive and Joyful to Match the Tone of the Day

This is a wedding celebration and should be a day of love and joy, so try and choose a story that reflects that same feeling to keep the mood light and fun.

Tips for Things to Avoid

  • Tragic losses
  • Deeply personal struggles
  • Personal failures
  • Embarrassing moments

4. Keep it Focused on the person You are Representing with the Speech

A woman holding her heart with a caption that reads, "Sometimes it can be tempting to talk about ourselves a lot in these speeches because we want the person/people to know how much they mean to us. But be careful that you’re not making the speech about you when it should be about the newlyweds."

Sometimes it can be tempting to talk about ourselves a lot in these speeches because we want the person/people to know how much they mean to us. But be careful that you’re not making the speech about you when it should be about the newlyweds.

Tips for Things to Avoid

  • Personal announcement (even really exciting and fun ones)
  • Focusing heavily on another person (this can happen when we want to mention all the people who are proud of the person/people. While we can absolutely mention them, avoid making the speech all about them).

5. Choose A Story That Talks About One of Your Favourite Qualities About the Person

To choose your story, think about your two favourite traits about the person you’re representing.

Are they:

  • Kind
  • Hard-working
  • Funny
  • Thoughtful
  • Loyal
  • Etc.

While it may be hard, try and narrow it down to one trait that you absolutely love and mention it in your speech, followed by a story highlighting this quality. Ideally, choose a story that you can then talk about why it means a lot to you.

Here’s an example from someone who has decided they’d like to highlight their loved ones humour:

Over the years, Ryanne and I have made so many memories, and what stands out to me is how their humour has been at the center of it all. Like the time we were flying to Las Vegas for our friend’s birthday celebration, but we ended up delayed in another city because of a snowstorm. While being stuck in an airport during a blizzard isn’t ideal, Ryanne knew how to make it memorable and, within no time, had me and everyone around us laughing and sharing stories!”

Tips for Things to Avoid

  • Qualities that aren’t flattering (or could be perceived as rude), unless it’s your dynamic and can be presented in a way that’s grounded in kindness
  • A story that might talk about the quality you love but hits any of the previous topics we’ve mentioned to avoid

Why do we Include Stories in Wedding Speeches at all?

A picture of friends hugging with a quote that reads, "On your loved ones' wedding day, sharing one of your favourite stories about them that shows how much they mean to you (even if it’s small, silly and fun) is a special kind of gesture, grounded in love; one that they will surely remember and appreciate."

With so much pressure around choosing the right story, why do we even bother at all?

Stories have long been a way to share themes, trends, feelings, dreams etc., and they continue to be an important way to connect to one another.

On your loved ones’ wedding day, sharing one of your favourite stories about them that shows how much they mean to you (even if it’s small, silly and fun) is a special kind of gesture, grounded in love; one that they will surely remember and appreciate.

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