How do I Start my Maid of Honor Speech for my Sister’s Wedding?

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You’re the Maid of Honor for your sister’s wedding and thinking, “How do I start my Maid of Honor speech?!” Don’t panic, I’m a professional wedding speech writer with tips and tricks to help!

First, consider:

  • What do you want your sister to feel on her wedding day?
  • What’s your favourite quality about your sister?
  • What does your sister mean to you?
  • Don’t be afraid to free write brainstorm!

Hoenstly, just starting your Maid of Honor speech can be the most daunting part about writing it, so to help, I’m sharing a few tips on how you begin your Maid of Honor speech for your sister’s wedding!

“How do I start my Maid of Honor speech?” First, consider what do want your sister to feel on her wedding day?

Whether you and your sister are super close, have had a falling out, or have never been close, a great way to focus the tone of your speech is to decide what you want your sister to feel on her wedding day.

  • Her to feel loved and appreciated?
  • To giggle over all your memories?
  • Feel cared for through nostalgic memories?
  • Excited and optimistic for the future?

Once you decide what you want your sister to feel, you can use this to help guide which stories you share and what language you use in your speech!

What’s your favourite quality about your sister?

Another option is thinking about your sister’s best qualities! Choosing to highlight someone’s best qualities on their special day can make them feel really loved and appreciated.

  • Is she incredibly caring, always there with the best advice?
  • Hardworking, dedicated to making all her dreams come true?
  • Hilarious, able to keep everyone laughing with her endless jokes?

Once you choose a quality or two about your sister, you can think of a memory that shows that quality to help focus your speech.

What does your sister mean to you?

Take a minute to think about what your relationship with your sister means to you. Even if you’re not close, you might find some special or meaningful wording to help guide your speech by asking this question.

  • My sister means I’ve always had a best friend.
  • My sister means the world to me.
  • She’s been with me through everything.
  • While we’ve argued a lot, we’ve always come back to each other.

Once you identify what your sister means to you, try and see if you can explain why you feel this—is there a memory you can share? A quote? An explanation?

Free write brainstorm

This is a common exercise in the creative community! Set a limit either by the number of pages you want to free write or the amount of time you’d like to write (I always suggest no more than two full pages or 5 minutes). Once you choose your limit, just start writing about your sister!

If you need prompts, consider the ideas above, or you can also use these:

  • “My favourite memory with my sister is when….”
  • “The time my sister made me laugh the hardest is….”
  • “The day my sister was born, I felt….”
  • “Having a sister means….”
  • “Seeing my sister marry her best friend makes me feel….”

Don’t worry about grammar, logic or anything! Just write continuously, allowing whatever comes up onto the paper.

Once you’re done, take a look! Often these free writes can jolt an idea from our brains, and while the majority of what you wrote might not be speech worthy, there may be a line, a thought or even just a feeling that arises from this exercise that can help guide your speech!

Writing the full speech

Once you’ve got some ideas, it’s time to start writing your first draft! To help you with this process, I have a blog on how to write a Maid of Honor speech for your sister’s wedding!

Please let me know if you have any other questions!

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