- What do you want your sister to feel on her wedding day?
- What’s your favourite quality about your sister?
- What does your sister mean to you?
- Free write brainstorm!
Starting your Maid of Honour speech can be the most daunting part about writing it, so today, I’m sharing a few tips on how you begin your Maid of Honor speech for your sister’s wedding!
What do you want your sister to feel on her wedding day?
Whether you and your sister are super close, have had a falling out, or have never been close, a great way to focus the tone of your speech is to decide what you want your sister to feel on her wedding day.
- Do you want her to feel loved and appreciated?
- Do you want her to giggle over all your memories?
- Do you want her to feel cared for through nostalgic memories?
- Do you want her to feel excited and optimistic for the future?
Once you decide what you want your sister to feel, you can use this to help guide which stories you share and what language you use in your speech!
What’s your favourite quality about your sister?
Another option is thinking about your sister’s best qualities! Choosing to highlight someone’s best qualities on their special day can make them feel really loved and appreciated.
- Is she incredibly caring, always there with the best advice?
- Is she hardworking, dedicated to making all her dreams come true?
- Is she hilarious, able to keep everyone laughing with her endless jokes?
Once you choose a quality or two about your sister, you can think of a memory that shows that quality to help focus your speech.
What does your sister mean to you?
Take a minute to think about what your relationship with your sister means to you. Even if you’re not close, you might find some special or meaningful wording to help guide your speech by asking this question.
- My sister means I’ve always had a best friend.
- My sister means the world to me.
- She’s been with me through everything.
- While we’ve argued a lot, we’ve always come back to each other.
Once you identify what your sister means to you, try and see if you can explain why you feel this—is there a memory you can share? A quote? An explanation?
Free write brainstorm
This is a common exercise in the creative community! Set a limit either by the number of pages you want to free write or the amount of time you’d like to write (I always suggest no more than two full pages or 5 minutes). Once you choose your limit, just start writing about your sister!
If you need prompts, consider the ideas above, or you can also use these:
- “My favourite memory with my sister is when….”
- “The time my sister made me laugh the hardest is….”
- “The day my sister was born, I felt….”
- “Having a sister means….”
- “Seeing my sister marry her best friend makes me feel….”
Don’t worry about grammar, logic or anything! Just write continuously, allowing whatever comes up onto the paper.
Once you’re done, take a look! Often these free writes can jolt an idea from our brains, and while the majority of what you wrote might not be speech worthy, there may be a line, a thought or even just a feeling that arises from this exercise that can help guide your speech!
Writing the full speech
Once you’ve got some ideas, it’s time to start writing your first draft! To help you with this process, I have a blog on how to write a Maid of Honour speech for your sister’s wedding!
Hiring a professional speechwriter
These days, we’re all busy and stressed, so if you don’t feel like you have the time, the energy or the desire to write this speech, reach out to a professional wedding speech writer! There are many great options out there trained to help you write a personalized and professional speech!
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