Writing a Maid of Honor Speech as the little sister can feel daunting. What do you say? How do you summarize a lifetime of memories in a few short minutes?
Today, I’ll share some writing tips and examples to get you started on your wedding speech.
Maid of Honor Speech from Little Sister Tip 1: Brainstorm
When you’re unsure where to start, it’s a great idea to brainstorm some ideas!
If you’re stuck on what kinds of information or ideas can work for a speech, work through the questions below!
Brainstorm answers to the following questions:
- What’s your favourite memory with your sister?
- What word would you use to describe your sister? Why?
- What’s something you admire about your sister and her partner’s relationship?
- Do you remember the first time you met your sister’s partner? Did you notice a special connection between them?
“Rebecca’s best quality is her kindness and while I have many memories that show this great quality, my favourite is from my first year at college.
When it was time for me to go to college, naturally, I wanted to go to the same school as my sister and was so excited when I was accepted! But as the first day came closer, I got more and more nervous because I didn’t know the campus or where to find my classes.
Rebecca knew I was worried, so she mapped out my classes with me the week before school started. She even took me on several campus tours, so I knew where to go! Then, she got to school early on my first day to walk me to my class even though she had her own classes to worry about.
But that’s the way Rebecca has always been. She’s amazing! I feel so lucky to have her as my big sister to look up to and learn from.”
Note: your memory does not have to be polished! Focus on freewriting an idea and then polishing it later if you decide to use it in your speech.
Maid of Honor Speech from Little Sister Tip 2: Plan your draft
Plan your draft once you’ve done your free-write.
Your draft may include the following parts:
- Introduce yourself
- Thank the guests for attending
- Share one of the memories or ideas from your free-write about your sister or your sister and her partner.
- Tell the couple you’re happy for them
- Share a wish for their marriage
- Cheers to the newlyweds!
Go through this list and jot down a few ideas under each bullet.
‘Tell the couple how happy you are for them” example
“I’ve always hoped that my sister would find someone who sees just how incredible she is, and I know she’s found this person in Morgan! Rebecca and Morgan, you two are one in a million! I’m so happy that you’ve found each other and have chosen to walk this life side by side.”
Maid of Honor Speech from Little Sister Tip 3: Write your first full draft and then walk away
Once you have an idea of what you want to say in your speech, it’s time to put together the full draft. This doesn’t need to be polished or flow well; just add all your thoughts together in the order you planned in tip 2.
Walk away from your speech for at least 24 hours (if you have time). Then you can come back with fresh eyes, which will make it easier to see what parts to keep, move, or delete.
Maid of Honor Speech from Little Sister Tip 4: Edit and practice
Once you come back to your draft and decide which pieces to keep or delete, it’s time to polish your speech.
Consider the following editing tips:
- Can any sentences be shortened? Are there any wordy sentences that could be cut down on? (this helps keep your speech shorter, clearer and cleaner)
- Are any sentences unnecessary? Are there any sentences that don’t match your main focus? (drop them to help keep your speech focused)
- Do any sections need to be reorganized? Does an idea flow better if shared earlier in the speech?
- Do you need transitions between paragraphs and thoughts?
- Do you need to edit for grammar and spelling?
Transition phrase examples:
- “On the other hand….”
- “For example…”
- “Above all…”
Maid of Honor Speech from Little Sister Tip 5: Record yourself
Now it’s time to record yourself reading the speech and play it back to yourself. Listen to how you read the speech and look for areas where you may notice:
- You stumbled over words (can you reword this section?)
- Your energy dipped during a section (is this section necessary?)
- The flow felt off (can you reorganize this section? Do you need to add better transitions?)
Once you hear your speech, you’ll have an idea about what areas still need some extra work.